(Kensington Palace Gardens)
So this post is less of a ‘how to’ than a ‘let’s work this out together’.
Lately I have been feeling the need to start building a strong foundation for my life.
I’ve made it to my early 30s with a wiser outlook on life, and I want to learn how to make the next 30+ years of my life as good as they can be.
I believe this begins with building a strong foundation in and outside of myself, from which to continue to grow and explore.
I’ve identified a few of the things which I believe I need to focus on to build these strong foundations, and I would like to share them with you.
(four of pentacles – Rider Waite Tarot)
There are few things worse than having problems with money. If your finances are unstable, it has the power to shake your mental state.
Not having the freedom that enough money affords you is one thing, but not having enough money to meet your needs and responsibilities is quite another.
Living in debt creates a level of shame that will affect other aspects of your life.
Money problems lead you to feel helpless, vulnerable and full of anxiety.
So you can see that making our finances stable is one of the most important things that we can do for ourselves.
This is easier said than done. It requires self discipline and sacrifice.
You might have to stay in a job/take a job that may not be what you ideally would want.
You might not be able to go out much, or travel much in order to pay for the essentials.
You may need to set up steady ways to repay debts, even if facing these debts head on are scary.
You may need to ask for help.
But the rewards will be great.
Having enough money to pay for the life you live, is liberating and fulfilling.
If you are able to start saving for your future or your dreams, you will be able to move forward in a measured way, until you realise that nothing is out of your reach, if you plan for it, if you are patient for it.
(king of cups- Rider Waite Tarot)
Learning to be in control of my emotions is one of the most valuable lessons I have learnt throughout my life so far.
This is not to be confused with having no emotion.
I am full of emotion. I am often super happy, sometimes fiery, sometimes sad, sometimes angry, or irritated.
Yet, I am able to not let my emotions control me anymore. (in the past they certainly did)
Meditation helped me to understand that emotions are transitory. They come and they go.
Sitting in meditation and observing your thoughts in an established practice, will help you see this for yourself.
Perhaps you have already noticed this in yourself. Depending on how your day is, your emotions could change from hour to hour, even minute to minute.
Understanding that you are not your emotions is key.
If you are able to stabilise your own emotion, your buttons will be pushed far less often, you will not take things too personally, and your intuition will increase.
(image from Pinterest)
Throughout my life I have had to let some people go.
People I had been friends with for over a decade, romantic relationships I had been in for many years.
Though hard to do at the time, these departures were always marked with a feeling of relief to some extent.
I had not felt able to grow within these situations.
I had not felt appreciated or respected.
I had often felt stifled and controlled.
I try to keep people around me who are not just supportive and kind, but who allow me to be who I am.
Those that are so busy being who they are, that they are not looking to mould me into what they want.
Having people in your life who understand and love you, is integral to building a strong foundation.
But first you have to love yourself enough to recognise these good people.
Self Love and Intuition
I have talked about self love a lot on this blog.
It is something I believe we never truly stop striving for.
However it is possible to grow in self love, exercising it like a muscle.
Learning to listen to your intuition and what it is trying to tell you, will help your levels of self love increase.
You will learn to stop doubting yourself, and understand that you really do have your own back.
So how do you do this?
Check in with yourself often.
Ask what you need from yourself in turbulent situations.
Sit with yourself, journal or just write out what you are needing from you.
The more you do this, the more you will realise that you are actively loving yourself.
This will help you to build a solid foundation within yourself.
Next post, I will describe an exercise that you can do to connect with, and accept your inner child.
Much love Always Txx